When I start with a new coaching client in the very first session we sit down together, mostly on my couch and we talk about the heavy stuff, we dig deep and try to answer the most essential questions. It’s not always easy, but it’s oh so worth it as we can release a shitload of burden. I used to ask my clients what is holding them back and what I always, always hear are things like: I am afraid to fail, I am afraid not to be enough.
And what I answer is this: fear is invincible, it’s going exactly nowhere, so you better find a way to live with it instead of trying to beat it. It’s wasted energy and it only fuels the fear when you try to get rid of it. Fear will always be part of your journey no matter where you are going. Especially on creative endeavors fear will be triggered and WILL show up because it’s a field of uncertainty, you will step out of your comfort zone without knowing what you can expect. But fear is a little (or insanely) overprotective because most of your creative moves won’t end in a “bloody, horrible death” although this is what your fear is trying to tell you when you think about putting yourself and your work out there. Liz Gilbert has such a lovely way to talk to her fear as it is a real person sitting next to her. Maybe this seems to be a little insane, but it helped me a lot to find my way apart from being afraid. “Dearest Fear: Creativity and I are about to go on a road trip together. I understand you’ll be joining us because you always do. I acknowledge that you believe you have an important job to do in my life and that you take your job seriously. Apparently, your job is to induce complete panic whenever I am about to do anything interesting – and, may I say, you are superb at your job. So by all means, keep doing your job, if you feel you must. But I will also be doing my job on this road trip, which is to work hard and stay focused. And Creativity will be doing its job, which is to remain stimulating and inspiring. There’s plenty of room in this vehicle for all of us, so make yourself at home, but understand this: Creativity and I are the only ones who will be making any decision along the way.” (Elizabeth Gilbert, Big Magic)
So when I started off my business and read this, I finally felt that is all good to be afraid, it is totally fine to feel the fear and acknowledge it’s presence. But the decision if I give it a voice lies completely within my competence.
Let me tell you this: We are all afraid to fail and we are all afraid we’re not enough. But WE ARE. It is indeed important to feel the fear, but to do what you are meant to do ANYWAY – this my dear, is called courage and it’s the birthplace of creativity and a life lived wholehearted.
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Also, here is a “Pinable” quote for you to be reminded from time to time: